Wrestling With Self-Worth? How To Heal Around Self-Worth Issues?

Do you struggle with feeling worthy? I did, and I still do.

There are many things that can cause someone to feel unworthy.

For example, if you grew up in an abusive environment, you may have been told that you were worthless and that you would never amount to anything.

If you grew up with family or friends who always had impossibly high expectations, you may have felt that you could never live up to their standards.

If you grew up in a stern environment, you may have felt that you were not good enough and that you had to be perfect in order to be accepted.

If you grew up in an environment where positive reinforcement was lacking or didn’t exist, even when you performed well at a task, there would always be some sort of negative feedback from someone you considered your authority figure, making it out of the question to ever celebrate a win.

If you grew up in an environment that lacked love, or love was held as a bargaining chip, or in an environment where communication and self-expression were limited.

If you were neglected or abandoned especially during your formative years.

All of these experiences can lead to feelings of unworthiness.

Why Is It Important To Feel Worthy?

It is important to feel worthy because when we feel unworthy, we tend to put ourselves down and compare ourselves to others. The grass is always greener on the other side. Keeping up with the Jones and all. We may feel that we are not good enough, that we don’t deserve what we have, or that we will never be as successful as someone else. Feeling unworthy can lead to a cycle of negative thoughts and emotions that can be difficult to break out of.

If we don’t believe that we are worthy of love and respect, we will never truly be able to love and accept ourselves, which makes it nearly impossible to be in a healthy, long-lasting relationship with others.

Feeling unworthy takes a toll on our relationships. We may put up walls to protect ourselves from being hurt. We may sabotage relationships because we don’t believe that anyone could really love us or want to be with us.

What Are Things That Could Cause Someone To Feel Unworthy?

Many things can cause someone to feel unworthy. Reasons can range from something as seemingly small as not getting a text back from a friend, to feeling like you’re not good enough because of your job or where you live.

It’s important to feel worthy because when we don’t, it can lead to all sorts of negative consequences. For example, we might start to believe that we’re not deserving of love or respect, which then leads us to act in ways that make it harder for us to find and maintain relationships.

Feeling unworthy can also lead us to put our own needs last since we believe that we don’t deserve them. This can have a serious impact on our mental and physical health. It could even make us the perfect targets for narcissists.

A feeling of worthiness is important because it allows us to feel confident and valued. We may feel worthy when we are praised by others, when we accomplish something difficult, or when we are simply doing something that we enjoy.

Feeling worthy can help boost our mood and motivation, and it can also lead to improved relationships and greater success in life.

No matter how you choose to feel worthy, remember that you are valuable and deserving of love and respect. Allow yourself to feel good about who you are and what you do, and watch as your life improves as a result.

What Are Things That Could Cause Someone To Feel Unworthy

How Does Feeling Unworthy Impact Our Relationship With Ourselves?

When we feel unworthy, we may not treat ourselves as well as we should. This can lead to low self-esteem and a negative view of ourselves. We may neglect our own needs and wants in favor of others, or we may allow others to take advantage of us. We may also find it difficult to love and accept ourselves. We may also start to believe that we are not worthy of love or respect, which can impact our relationship with others. We might find fault in everything we do, doubting ourselves and beating ourselves up for not being good enough. This can lead to a never-ending cycle of negative self-talk and self-doubt. Feeling unworthy can also make it difficult to set boundaries since we believe that we don’t deserve to have our needs met.

What Are The Negative Impacts Of Feeling Unworthy?

If we feel unworthy, we may have trouble forming and maintaining relationships. We may start to believe that we do not deserve love or respect from others. We begin to believe that they could not way to be around us. This can lead to us acting defensively (preemptively sometimes) to protect ourselves, specifically our ego – such as pushing them away for little to no reason before we feel hurt by them, straining relationships, and in some cases, causing a lack of intimacy.

We may also struggle to trust others or accept their love and support. Additionally, feeling unworthy can make us more likely to engage in unhealthy behaviors, such as self-harm or substance abuse. Feeling unworthy can make it hard to maintain healthy and fulfilling relationships.

A list of some negative impacts of feeling unworthy can include:

  • Difficulty setting boundaries
  • Low self-esteem
  • Negative self-talk
  • Self-doubt
  • Difficulty maintaining relationships
  • Poor mental and physical health.
What Are The Negative Impacts Of Feeling Unworthy

Some Relationships To Be Mindful Of If You Feel That You Lack Self-worth…

When we lack self-worth we can become susceptible to some more complex relationships with others. Below are a few conditions I thought would be helpful to point out as it can be hard to notice on your own.


There is often a relationship between feeling unworthy and co-dependency. When we don’t feel worthy, we might start to believe that we need someone else in order to be happy. This can lead us to become codependent on others, which can then lead to unhealthy relationships.

Co-dependency can be defined as a pattern of behavior in which one person enables another person’s addiction, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. This often happens because the co-dependent person feels they need to be needed in order to feel worthwhile.

The co-dependent person might stay in an abusive relationship, for example, because they believe that their partner needs them and they would be nothing without them. This can lead to a vicious cycle in which the co-dependent person ends up feeling even more unworthy.

Dependent Personality Disorder

Dependent personality disorder (DPD) is an anxious preoccupation with the approval of others. It is a subclinical condition characterized by symptoms such as a need for excessive reassurance, feelings of inadequacy, and difficulty making decisions without input from others.

People with DPD often seek out relationships in which they can feel needed and appreciated. This neediness can lead to codependent behavior, such as enmeshment, caretaking, and boundary issues.

While people with DPD can be loving and supportive partners, their dependence on others can sometimes be problematic. If you are in a relationship with someone with DPD, you might feel like you are always walking on eggshells or that you are not good enough. You might also feel like you are always the one giving and never receiving.

Falling Prey To Narcissism:

There is often a relationship between low self-worth and narcissism. Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by grandiosity, an exaggerated sense of self-importance, and a lack of empathy for others.

People with narcissism often have difficulty accepting criticism or failure, and they can react angrily or even violently when they feel like they are not being treated the way they think they deserve. People with low self-worth often doubt their own abilities and feel like they are not good enough. They might compare themselves to others and feel inferior, or they might try to please others in order to get validation.

People with low self-worth are often attracted to narcissists because they provide a false sense of security and assurance that the person is worthy and important. However, these relationships are often unhealthy and can lead to further feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness and other encounters of emotional abuse.

If you find yourself in any of the relationships highlighted above, it is important to seek professional help so that you can learn how to set boundaries and develop a healthier sense of self. A combination of psychotherapy to explore self-awareness and Intuitive Healing, an advanced type of Reiki specialized in emotional healing is a very effective combination to help one move forward in a positive way towards a healthy, much more abundant life.

Falling Prey To Narcissism

What Are Some Ways To Feel More Worthy?

There are many ways to feel more worthy. Here are some suggestions:

1. Acknowledge your accomplishments.

2. Be kind to yourself.

3. Create and practice boundaries.

4. Do something for someone else (because you truly want to, and have the energy to without compensating your boundaries).

5. Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.

6. Avoid comparing yourself to others.

7. Remember that everyone has struggles.

8. Focus on the positive.

9. Give yourself credit for your efforts.

10. Practice self-compassion.

11. Practice self-care.

12. Seek professional help if needed to identify and address the underlying causes of your feelings of unworthiness such as emotional energy healing.

Start by trying one or two of these things and see how it makes you feel. Remember, it’s important to be patient with yourself and take things one step at a time.

Feeling worthy is a process, not a destination, so don’t expect to change overnight. With time and effort, you can start to feel better about yourself and your place in the world.

No matter how you choose to feel worthy, remember that you are valuable and deserving of love and respect. Allow yourself to feel good about who you are and what you do, and watch as your life improves as a result.