Are Your Coping Mechanisms Healthy or Not So Much?

Try Out Better Coping Mechanisms such as Reiki and Intuitive Healing

Disappointments, loss, grief, rejection – whatever source of stress you may have is something you will have to deal with at some point in your life. To quote Havelock Ellis, an English essayist and physician, “Pain and death are part of life. To reject them is to reject life itself.” As a means to deal with stress, most people form habits. Coping mechanisms are tools that people use to assist them to get through challenging situations. Unfortunately, many of these habits are harmful ones, not only to you but also to the people around you.

Humans enter a condition of “fight or flight” when confronted with an external threat. And when confronted with an internal threat, they enter a state of “accept or suppress,” frequently going to great measures to avoid what most people fear the most: an unpleasant feeling. And when “flight” and suppress” becomes the constant theme of how you deal with your battles then it becomes unhealthy. 

Unhealthy coping mechanisms can have a negative impact on your mental health, emotional state, physical well-being, and overall outlook, which also affects your relationship with others. If you are not mindful you may already be in the habit of unhealthy coping mechanisms without knowing it. 

So what are some of these unhealthy coping mechanisms exactly?

Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms

Extreme Isolation

When you’re dealing with a lot of individuals that irritate and bother you, keeping to yourself may appear to be the easier alternative. You might flee even before something bad happens. But the truth is that connection is one of our most basic needs. 

While it’s best to avoid some people you simply cannot just run away from everybody. Isolation deprives you of your most important support networks. Your risks of developing depression, low self-esteem, social anxiety, and other health issues also increase. It will also prevent you from mending issues and nurturing relationships with people you love.


For a variety of reasons, people choose to avoid uncomfortable or inconvenient situations instead of confronting them head-on. They resort to avoidance coping. Anxious persons are prone to avoidance coping since it seems to be a means to escape anxiety-inducing thoughts and events. An avoidance coping reaction to stress, on the other hand, tends to worsen anxiety rather than alleviate it in the long run. 

One example is procrastination. You may postpone doing something or even try to stop thinking about it if something you have to do stresses you out. But the reality is that you can’t really stop thinking about whatever needs to be done. Rather, you will be anxious over it until it is completed.  And then you will ultimately be unable to perform the task or job well because you did not allow yourself enough time, adding to the stress.


Denial is defined as the deliberate omission of information. Denial is a protective response against distressing news or knowledge that can be difficult to hear when employed as an unhealthy coping method.  Instead of facing our problems, we just sweep them under the carpet and deny their existence. This is frequently utilized to create a false sense of security that might cause a person to become detached from reality.


Projection is a coping mechanism in which undesired feelings are projected onto another person, where they are perceived as a danger from the outside world. For example, when an individual is intimidated by his own furious feelings, accuses another of harboring hostile ideas, which results in aggression.


Self-medicating is a coping mechanism for people who are feeling helpless or powerless. One devastating example is substance abuse such as alcohol or drug addiction. Excessive use of drugs or alcohol may assist to dull feelings, pain, and those undesirable thoughts that are purposefully avoided, but it can also lead to serious health problems, addiction, overdose, and death.

Other common addictive self-medicating habits to suppress lingering problems include emotional/stress eating, compulsive shopping, and any other habits that can only bring momentary relief but can bring mental, health, and even financial crises.

Again these coping methods may be beneficial as they bring instant relief, but they will continue to be called “unhealthy coping mechanisms” for the devastating effects they can cause mentally, physically, and emotionally. You can acquire anxiety disorders and become overly reliant on people or possessions if you react to a stressful circumstance in a maladaptive or unhealthy way. As a result, problematic behavior patterns emerge.

Healthy Coping Alternatives


Working out on a regular basis is one of the most effective strategies to manage stress. It improves one’s mood, self-esteem, and physical health. Every day, do some form of physical activity, even if it’s only going for a stroll.

Healthy Coping Alternatives

Get a Support System

Identify a family member or friend to whom you can turn for help from time to time. Be a friend to them, and if they need to talk, return the favor. To keep the connection healthy, agree on some ground rules.

Get support from friends

Explore Mental Health

A mental health expert may be able to assist you if you are having trouble making adjustments or are unsure where to begin.

When it comes to learning to replace your old methods of thinking about and responding to stress with more effective ones, having the expertise and support of a trusted therapist can make a huge difference.

Prayer and Meditation

Meditation is a highly suggested coping method for reconnecting with yourself and your senses. Meditation allows you to focus on yourself without being distracted by the stresses of everyday life. All you need to do is focus on your body and the environment around you. When you’re in the meditation zone, your mind is free of any anxieties and concerns.

Prayer and Meditation

Reiki and Intuitive Healing

When looking for a coping mechanism what matters is to find what best works for you. While you are at it try Reiki and Intuitive Healing. Unlike talk therapy you are not required to talk things out as the body itself will release those repressed or suppressed emotions. But if you feel like talking about things on a significant level would help you then Reiki and Intuitive Healing can also be complemented with conventional talk therapy.

Reiki and Intuitive Healing for coping mechanism

If you should ask what’s the difference between Reiki and Intuitive Healing, here is a simple answer. Reiki is the most basic form and the foundation of channeled energy healing that can benefit anyone, while Intuitive Healing is more advanced and is a targeted treatment. 

Reiki will give you some extra boost of energy when somewhat you’re stressed out. A Reiki session could help you relax when other hurdles come along the way and provide tension relief. Tensions that could cause issues even with the physical body. For recurring and long-term illnesses you will best benefit from Intuitive Healing.

Intuitive Healing is equally a safe type of channeled energy healing treatment. It combines advanced energy healing techniques such as deep Emotional Energy Healing, in which we focus on healing past emotional traumas and emotional blocks, as well as releasing repressed or suppressed emotions in your body.

Both Reiki and Intuitive Healing sessions can be done in person or online. You can be anywhere in the world and receive the treatment. All you need is wifi as we will use Google Meet for an initial conversation before moving into the treatment. 

There are basically no differences between an in-person and a Distant Reiki session other than the fact that we are not physically in the same room but you will undoubtedly receive all of the benefits of the treatments. You can experience the beautiful benefits of a Reiki, Distant Reiki, or Intuitive Healing session here

Take some time out and give yourself an opportunity to connect with yourself – slow down, rest, and try one or a few of the healthy coping mechanisms mentioned above. Take small steps. Eventually, being able to mindfully apply a healthier coping mechanism in the height of a moment is great achievement towards your better well-being!